Parenthood in Indian Culture – IIM036

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It’s Father’s Day on Sunday and we just celebrated Mother’s Day last month.  I thought it was appropriate to share some insight about parenthood in Indian culture.

In today’s episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, you will get to know a bit about the importance of taking on the responsibility of being a parent.  Many have asked me to share about me and my relationship to my decision of not having children.

It’s a short episode that you can listen to on your 1/2 mile walk or your drive to a store.  Hope you enjoy it.  As always, leave your comments below or follow on message me on Instagram.

Family is foundation – IIM035 Part 2

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, Priya and Styves share what followed once Styves met Priya’s dad..  There were conversations that made them stop and think and reflect on their own lives and behaviors.  These two really are on a wonderful adventure together.

You will get to hear Priya share her experience of meeting Styves 8 year old daughter.  Both come from a very tight net family and family plays a major role in both their lives.  You will find many nuggets of wisdom from Styves and Priya in this episode.  So, listen carefully.

We share many laughs and jokes in this episode.

This is Part 2 of the interview.  In case you just joined us, here’s Part 1 so you have the full story.

I welcome you comments and look forward to bringing you many more episodes that cover stories encompassed with various emotions.

You may connect with the couple on Instagram:   Priya and Styves

Priya & Styves – Wedding Day

Bringing adventure on our journey toward our destination – IIM 034 Part 1

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, Priya and Styves share their first meeting and the meetings that followed.  There were conversations that made them stop and think and reflect on their own lives and behaviors.  These two really are on a wonderful adventure together.

You will get to hear Priya share her experience of her conversation with her father.  Despite the baggage of thoughts and nervousness she felt, she was able to have a dialogue with her father about Styves and their future together.

Both come from a very tight net family and family plays a major role in both their lives.  You will find many nuggets of wisdom from Styves and Priya in this episode.  So, listen carefully.

We share many laughs and jokes in this episode.

This is Part 1 of the interview so come back next week for Part 2 for more laughter and fun.

I welcome you comments and look forward to bringing you many more episodes that cover stories encompassed with various emotions.

Priya & Styves – Wedding Day

 

When parents understand the journey – Part 2 -IIM033

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, Akhil and Fernanda share their wedding ceremonies.  They enjoyed an Indian wedding as well as Mexican wedding.  The families got along well and enjoyed spending time together.  Yes, having understanding parents help tremendously in the journey where there’s a constant learning and understanding needed to make it work.

Though the couple didn’t get challenged by their families as they discussed their desire to get married, they definitely had their fair share of challenges during the immigration process.  If you want to know and understand the process, surely connect with the couple to help you out.

I hope to interview Akhil’s parents at some point so they can share their love story and the journey of over 25 years of their marriage.

Hope you enjoyed this episode and are encouraged to share your story.  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

You may connect with the couple on Instagram.  Connect with Akhil and Fernanda

Indian Wedding

Let’s find a new home & start something! Part 1 – IIM032

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, Akhil and Fernanda share their backgrounds and a little about the families they grew up in.  They started their affair learning each other’s languages and ended up in place where they are learning about each others cultures.  Though, bringing the subject of marrying someone from a different culture didn’t create any roadblocks for either, Akhil knew the desire he had of getting his parents’ blessings for his new life with Fernanda.

Though the couple didn’t get challenged by their families as they discussed their desire to get married, they definitely had their fair share of challenges during the immigration process.  If you want to know and understand the process, surely connect with the couple to help you out.

Come back next week to listen to Part 2 of the story.  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

You may connect with the couple on Instagram.  Connect with Akhil and Fernanda

Wedding Day

Faith & Sexuality (homosexuality or heterosexuality) can coexist Part 2- IIM031

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, Kelly shares her experience of her conversation with her father.  Despite a very tough conversation, she resolved many challenges that she experienced with her father.

Faith plays a big role in Kelly’s life and we discussed about the inner critique that shows up for a person who is in same-sex relationship and grew up in a religious family.  It’s an on-going challenge but Kelly & Sheena are taking steps toward creating a harmonious space for themselves.

To get the full story, listen to Part 1 of this interview.

I welcome you comments and look forward to bringing you many more episodes that cover stories encompassed with various emotions.

 

Investing in a wedding ring? – Why? Our Story

Since we had exceptional circumstances of how our wedding came about (story in Episode 3), neither one of us proposed to each other under the moonlight or even under a light fixture somewhere.  At the time, my now husband and I decided to get married, I didn’t like wearing jewelry so I was surprised when he asked me what type of ring I would like.  In my true Aman fashion, I fought hard against the tradition of wearing a ring.  Eventually, after understanding the true meaning of the symbolic gesture of wearing rings, I said that I would get him a ring if he wanted but he could just give me the money and I would invest that (yes, very Indian of me).  Though he doesn’t remember it now, at the time of my comment, he laughed AT me.  I thought I could get him to think like an Indian and place value where it belonged.

When that didn’t work, I made a deal that if he designed a ring for me then I would take it but I didn’t want him to just go somewhere and buy it or manipulate the stone or something.  I wanted it designed from scratch.  Well, I must have made an impression on him as he took on the challenge of designing the ring for me.  All my attempts of getting out of this wedding ring situation failed as he started the process of designing this ring.

I remember him asking me many questions and I had to dig deep to give him honest answers because he was doing something so important (for him).  My ring is made out of silver metal, with waves on both sides of a tear drop diamond tilted a bit in the center (image below).  He chose all these elements as he probed my views of the world and material during the design process.

I see silver as a gentle and soft metal (in my opinion) unlike gold, which I consider as a flashy metal (very non-Indian of me).  Waves symbolize water as my love for water and fear of drowning in it as well.  How ironic that it totally captured my views about love and marriage?  Though I am not fond of diamond, he chose diamond as he already had the stone and he saw no other stone that showed my strong character and my faithfulness toward family and friends.

I couldn’t get out of having to spend energy or money on designing Otto’s ring as that’s what he wanted.  Rather than asking him questions, I put my psychology degree to work.  I had invested in it so much so finally I had to make use of this degree and I like to do what I like to do so there was no need for interrogating him.  I chose platinum as nothing can corrode Otto and he is determined human being who knows what he wants and gets it.  He has big personality with powerful existence but has to accommodate to fit within the limits of what others can understand, thus the coil in that goes in a circle fitted in the middle of solid metal.  The stone was just because it was purple, his favorite color.  It was all what I thought of him but he really liked his ring and I didn’t see my ring until the time he put it on my finger and I was very pleased with the results.

Everything that we have has a story and now it’s your turn.  What’s a story you want to share?

Our Wedding Rings

Side note: very pleased with our jewelry designer.  He’s a master craftsman…

Love being in your own skin – IIM030

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we touch a few different topics, including accepting one’s own sexuality and addressing all the judgements of the community and then longing for the acceptance of family.  It took years for both Kelly and Sheena, my guests today, to accept and acknowledge the beautiful beings the were (and are).  Many of you may understand the emotional and psychological challenges one faces when he/she is different than the “normality” one is taught growing up.  I am humbled by the courage & perseverance of these two amazing women as they still have to walk on eggshells around some people despite being together for 8 years.

I read an interview by director of Spa night, where he said, “Homosexuality is a topic a lot of Asian American cultures, especially first and second generation[s], don’t want to deal with it. Whether if it’s because of religion or tradition, it’s hard to talk about.” I think it’s not only Asian cultures but also Western cultures where homosexuality is looked at as a unhealthy condition and in my opinion it’s a cowardly way to reject something that they didn’t grow up with.  It maybe fear of change or lack of courage to really try to understand human race.  I will say it out loud that it’s a shame that many people haven’t grown up yet and questioned that other than procreation why is heterosexuality the “right path”.

Enough of my rant.  Let’s move to important things…

Kelly & Sheena share their story of their online meeting that led to Ohio pride parade experience and now to talks of marriage.  Both share their experiences of their conversations with their parents about their sexuality.  As tough as those conversations were the couple made it through and have taken a place as a member of the family in each other’s families.

Today you will get to hear Part 1 of my interview with this lovely couple.  Come back next week to listen to Part 2 of the story.

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

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Columbus, Ohio Pride Parade

 

Divorces & Interracial Marriages – IIM029

Divorce rate in interracial marriages

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, I answer a question that many people have either emailed me about or friends have asked me.  When I get into discussions about interracial marriages, I get asked, “Is the divorce rate pretty high in interracial marriages?” or “What’s the divorce rate in interracial marriages?”

You will hear my response through my experience.  I talk about:

  • Vulnerabilities in interracial marriages.  The outside negative influence can bring a lot of chaos into marriages.  Think of cases where parents or family members were not happy with the union from the start.
  • Importance of Code of Conduct in a marriage.
  • Forever changing lives and to adapt to the changes in your partner and accepting those changes.  People don’t stay the same.
  • Understanding that the person you marry is not necessarily going to stay the same as he/she becomes a parent.  Life events bring different qualities out in a person so be acknowledging those qualities and making the best of new situations.

If you have questions and you need any help, please do let me know and I would be happy to provide guidance by sharing my experiences with you.  Feel free to share this with your friends or family members who can find some insights from this story.

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

If you have a story to share, contact me and provide a little information about you.  You can also connect with me on Instagram or Facebook.  And how about just email me at indianinterracialmarriages@gmail.com

Common Question Answered IIM028

Convincing parents to accept non-Indian partner

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, I answer one of the most common questions people emailed me in Season 1, “How do I convince my parents to let me be with my non-Indian partner?”

You will hear my response through my story rather than my opinion.  I believe best answers to questions come from experiences rather than opinions.  I never thought of convincing my parents but I did believe that it was important to share my news with my parents in a manner that offered them the space to hear me out.  I know that it’s important to help people understand my point of view but also not make them wrong for having an opinion that is different than mine.

At the end of the day, parents love their kids and they want their kids to be happy.  Not knowing another culture and faith creates some level of fear for parents for the happiness of their kids so they reject anything that they don’t understand.  It’s understandable.  But I talk to people how I like to be talked to this helps me in understanding and being patient with others.  I know that by providing other people the opportunity to be heard and helping them choose, I can forgo taking the responsibility of their feelings about my choice.

This episode shares my experience and my thoughts on how I see this gift of life and my belief in giving this life justice by creating happy life for myself.  Yes, my choices have brought challenges for me but it’s easier for me to handle the responsibilities of those challenges than if I was living a life chosen by others.  There are compromises that I make and those compromises are chosen by me and not by anyone else.

Hope sharing my experience on this matter will help you navigate some of the challenges in your life.  I hope you find the courage and love within you to really be honest with your families and give them the opportunity to choose to be happy for you or not.

If you have questions and you need any help, please do let me know and I would be happy to provide guidance by sharing my experiences with you.  Feel free to share this with your friends or family members who can find some insights from this story.

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

If you have a story to share, contact me and provide a little information about you.  You can also connect with me on Instagram or Facebook.  And how about just email me at indianinterracialmarriages@gmail.com

Just enjoying my time here….