Monthly Archives: September 2016

White Mughals – An Interracial Tale of Love, Betrayal and Intrigue – IIM 006

Join me for something different this week as I relate the story of William Dalrymple’s White Mughals.

I was moved to intense emotion as I read this absorbing tale of interracial love, betrayal, politics, intrigue, sorrow . . . and inspiration.

For more information about White Mughals, click here.

The letters between gma and Katherine are on page 387 of the book.

Portraits of James, Khair un-Nissa and kids can be viewed here.
You can read more stories of interracial marriages on www.pbs.org
Courtesy of White Mughals book

Courtesy of White Mughals book

We change and that change brings about the change in the world

It’s amazing to see how world has changed around me or is it that people have changed around me.  Now when people find out that I am of Indian descent, our conversations are so different than what those used to be a few decades ago.  It was only a few days ago that my husband was talking about a colleague of his who is married to a Caucasian man.  He brought it up as he thought it would be great for me to interview the couple for this Podcast.  I’m fascinated by people’s stories and I’m always open to people sharing those with me.  I have come across these interactions from many people as they find out about this Podcast.  I hear, “You should talk to so and so for your Podcast.  He/she is married to an Indian.”

One day sitting around a thought occurred to me as I’m very much into Infographics these days.  I thought of creating a fun one for this blog.  Here, enjoy this and leave your comments and yes, you are welcome to share it with others.

Another note, if you have a story to share, let me know.  We can figure out a way to share it with people who can really are waiting to hear your story.  We can keep you anonymous too, if you wish.

Click to view Infographic

infographic

Another Successful Interracial Marriage: Hina and Dave, Part 2 – IIM 005

Just like I did, Hina married a Caucasian man. And like Otto and me, they’ve created a successful marriage. In their case, 15 years strong!

Join me for Part 2 of my conversation with Hina and Dave. They invited me into their lovely home to record this interview. We had so much fun, we had to break it up into two parts.

If you haven’t heard Part 1 yet, listen to it here.

Here’s some of what you can expect to hear in this episode:

  • How a new grandchild brings interracial marriage families closer together
  • Why Hina’s mom lives with the family (and how it enriches her kids’ lives)
  • The Indian cultural norm that made it almost impossible for Dave to change his daughter’s diapers
  • Why Dave doesn’t confide in members of his immediate family (and who he does confide in)
  • Something Hina did that was very upsetting to Dave (and how they resolved it)
  • Why Indian women feel a need to have and control their own money (apart from the family budget)
  • And much more!
Match.com

Match.com

Another Successful Interracial Marriage: Hina and Dave, Part 1 – IIM 004

Just like I did, Hina married a Caucasian man. And like Otto and me, they’ve created a successful marriage. In their case, 15 years strong!

Join me for my conversation with Hina and Dave. They invited me into their lovely home to record this interview. We had so much fun, we had to break it up into two parts. Here is Part 1.

Here’s some of what you can expect to hear in this episode:

  • The $19.95 investment that worked out for Hina (and how she met Dave because of it)
  • Why Hina proposed to Dave over email
  • How Dave’s first marriage actually made it easier for his mom to accept he was marrying an Indian woman
  • Why Dave had always been attracted to women that are NOT like his mother
  • The food that Hina eats that was a huge relief to Dave
  • What Hina’s mom said when she told her she was marrying a white man
  • Why Hina had a lot more in common with Dave than her first husband, an Indian man
  • What Dave feels is the most valuable aspect of being with a woman of a different race
  • Why Hina’s first marriage failed (and why it wasn’t her husband’s fault)
  • Hina and Dave’s low-key private wedding, and why Hina didn’t tell her extended family about it ahead of time
  • Why one of Hina’s family members thought Dave was there to fix the sprinklers
  • How Dave navigated the language barrier
  • Why Dave is happy to have Hina’s mom live in their house
  • How Dave and Hina expose their kids to different religious teachings
  • And much more!
Match.com worked for Dave & Hina

Match.com worked for Dave & Hina

My Interracial Marriage: A Conversation With My Husband, Part 2 – IIM 003

I thought it would be appropriate to begin this journey with you by talking about the Indian interracial marriage I know best: my own!

Join me for Part 2 of my conversation with my husband Otto about how we met, started dating, and got married.

If you haven’t heard Part 1 of our conversation, click here to listen to it now.

Here’s some of what you can expect to hear in this episode:

  • What was important to Otto about having a wedding (it’s probably not what you think)
  • Why we had TWO weddings!
  • How Otto knew I was the one for him
  • The missing piece from Otto’s list about what he wanted in a relationship
  • What Otto realized after just three dates with me
  • Some rough times we had early in our marriage (and how we put them behind us)
  • Why Otto thought I was a good influence on his son
  • And much more!

My Interracial Marriage: A Conversation With My Husband, Part 1 – IIM 002

I thought it would be appropriate to begin this journey with you by talking about the Indian interracial marriage I know best: my own!

Join me for Part 1 of my conversation with my husband Otto about how we met, started dating, and got married.

(Note: I refer to this as Episode 1 in the recording, but this is actually Episode 2. Episode 1 is a short introduction to the podcast. Click here to listen to it now.)

Here’s some of what you can expect to hear in this episode:

  • The decision Otto made at a yoga class that changed his life — and mine — forever
  • Why I was initially apprehensive to tell my parents about my new relationship
  • How both of us went from not ever wanting to get married to having two weddings
  • Why Otto refused to let me translate for him when he first met my parents
  • The immediate expectation my parents had for me and Otto
  • How my parents’ religious beliefs made them accept Otto without reservation
  • Why our wedding had to be a public affair
  • The differences in attitudes about money in Indian and American cultures
  • And much more!