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I have opened a shop for you

This podcast is free to listen to and people donate as they wish and I appreciate it.  Recently, I thought of helping more people through this podcast.  These people may or may not be in interracial relationships but I know everyone needs help regardless of what tribe they belong to.

So, between 9/11 and 9/18, all proceeds from this shop will be donated to support areas impacted by hurricanes or flooding, be it Mumbai, India or United States.

I encourage you to support this cause by making a purchase of these goods.  Give these as a gift or buy these for your little ones.  These are all organic products, so you know you are supporting our environment when buying these items.

Thank you for your support and now go buy something.

Investing in a wedding ring? – Why? Our Story

Since we had exceptional circumstances of how our wedding came about (story in Episode 3), neither one of us proposed to each other under the moonlight or even under a light fixture somewhere.  At the time, my now husband and I decided to get married, I didn’t like wearing jewelry so I was surprised when he asked me what type of ring I would like.  In my true Aman fashion, I fought hard against the tradition of wearing a ring.  Eventually, after understanding the true meaning of the symbolic gesture of wearing rings, I said that I would get him a ring if he wanted but he could just give me the money and I would invest that (yes, very Indian of me).  Though he doesn’t remember it now, at the time of my comment, he laughed AT me.  I thought I could get him to think like an Indian and place value where it belonged.

When that didn’t work, I made a deal that if he designed a ring for me then I would take it but I didn’t want him to just go somewhere and buy it or manipulate the stone or something.  I wanted it designed from scratch.  Well, I must have made an impression on him as he took on the challenge of designing the ring for me.  All my attempts of getting out of this wedding ring situation failed as he started the process of designing this ring.

I remember him asking me many questions and I had to dig deep to give him honest answers because he was doing something so important (for him).  My ring is made out of silver metal, with waves on both sides of a tear drop diamond tilted a bit in the center (image below).  He chose all these elements as he probed my views of the world and material during the design process.

I see silver as a gentle and soft metal (in my opinion) unlike gold, which I consider as a flashy metal (very non-Indian of me).  Waves symbolize water as my love for water and fear of drowning in it as well.  How ironic that it totally captured my views about love and marriage?  Though I am not fond of diamond, he chose diamond as he already had the stone and he saw no other stone that showed my strong character and my faithfulness toward family and friends.

I couldn’t get out of having to spend energy or money on designing Otto’s ring as that’s what he wanted.  Rather than asking him questions, I put my psychology degree to work.  I had invested in it so much so finally I had to make use of this degree and I like to do what I like to do so there was no need for interrogating him.  I chose platinum as nothing can corrode Otto and he is determined human being who knows what he wants and gets it.  He has big personality with powerful existence but has to accommodate to fit within the limits of what others can understand, thus the coil in that goes in a circle fitted in the middle of solid metal.  The stone was just because it was purple, his favorite color.  It was all what I thought of him but he really liked his ring and I didn’t see my ring until the time he put it on my finger and I was very pleased with the results.

Everything that we have has a story and now it’s your turn.  What’s a story you want to share?

Our Wedding Rings

Side note: very pleased with our jewelry designer.  He’s a master craftsman…

We have made a few changes

As we get into Season 2 of the podcast, it was appropriate to update the website and add a few things that makes it easy for you to connect with me.  So here they are:

  1. Now you can leave a voice message to me – Just click on the little microphone on the right hand side of any page on this website and the when you receive a pop-up message to start recording, click that and that’s it.
  2. Ask Aman – You have questions that are challenging and you are looking for figure out a way to get through a difficult, just connect with me.  Go to Ask Aman page and leave me an email and/or fill out the survey on the page.  There’s information on the page that you can read to learn what actions to take to connect with me.
  3. Subscribe to the newsletter – On the right hand side of the main page, you will see Subscribe to our mailing list area, just enter your email and click Subscribe and you are done. This will allow you to receive information that I will be sending on weekly basis.
  4. Leave a Rate & Review on iTunes – You see the bar at the bottom of your screen, just click that and leave a review for the show.  Or you can Click Here to rate this podcast so more people can find this great content.

And that’s what is new for now.  I will be updating the website to include more information as you request, so come back soon to see what’s new.

 

How to Subscribe to this Podcast

A podcast is a free downloadable audio show that enables you to learn while you’re on the go.  To subscribe to my podcast for free, you’ll need an app to listen to the show from.

For iPhone/iPad/iPod listeners – Grab your phone or device and go to the iTunes store and search “Indian Interracial Marriages”.  This will help you to download the free Podcasts App (produced by Apple) and then subscribe to the show from within that app.  Every time I produce a new episode, you’ll get it downloaded right on your iDevice.

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For those who don’t have a mobile device – You can always listen to the show by clicking the audio file at the top of this page.  You can see Podcast Episode

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Your Story

I know there are many of you out there with amazing stories.  I want to hear those stories.  And I’m sure the many listeners of this podcast want to hear your stories as well.  No story is alike but every story has a lesson and I encourage you to share and let us learn something from your story.

You are welcome to email me at indianinterracialmarriages@gmail.com to share what you would like to with the listeners.

So, don’t be shy and reach out….

 

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We change and that change brings about the change in the world

It’s amazing to see how world has changed around me or is it that people have changed around me.  Now when people find out that I am of Indian descent, our conversations are so different than what those used to be a few decades ago.  It was only a few days ago that my husband was talking about a colleague of his who is married to a Caucasian man.  He brought it up as he thought it would be great for me to interview the couple for this Podcast.  I’m fascinated by people’s stories and I’m always open to people sharing those with me.  I have come across these interactions from many people as they find out about this Podcast.  I hear, “You should talk to so and so for your Podcast.  He/she is married to an Indian.”

One day sitting around a thought occurred to me as I’m very much into Infographics these days.  I thought of creating a fun one for this blog.  Here, enjoy this and leave your comments and yes, you are welcome to share it with others.

Another note, if you have a story to share, let me know.  We can figure out a way to share it with people who can really are waiting to hear your story.  We can keep you anonymous too, if you wish.

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