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Love being in your own skin – IIM030

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we touch a few different topics, including accepting one’s own sexuality and addressing all the judgements of the community and then longing for the acceptance of family.  It took years for both Kelly and Sheena, my guests today, to accept and acknowledge the beautiful beings the were (and are).  Many of you may understand the emotional and psychological challenges one faces when he/she is different than the “normality” one is taught growing up.  I am humbled by the courage & perseverance of these two amazing women as they still have to walk on eggshells around some people despite being together for 8 years.

I read an interview by director of Spa night, where he said, “Homosexuality is a topic a lot of Asian American cultures, especially first and second generation[s], don’t want to deal with it. Whether if it’s because of religion or tradition, it’s hard to talk about.” I think it’s not only Asian cultures but also Western cultures where homosexuality is looked at as a unhealthy condition and in my opinion it’s a cowardly way to reject something that they didn’t grow up with.  It maybe fear of change or lack of courage to really try to understand human race.  I will say it out loud that it’s a shame that many people haven’t grown up yet and questioned that other than procreation why is heterosexuality the “right path”.

Enough of my rant.  Let’s move to important things…

Kelly & Sheena share their story of their online meeting that led to Ohio pride parade experience and now to talks of marriage.  Both share their experiences of their conversations with their parents about their sexuality.  As tough as those conversations were the couple made it through and have taken a place as a member of the family in each other’s families.

Today you will get to hear Part 1 of my interview with this lovely couple.  Come back next week to listen to Part 2 of the story.

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

Mentions in the episode:

Columbus, Ohio Pride Parade

 

Divorces & Interracial Marriages – IIM029

Divorce rate in interracial marriages

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, I answer a question that many people have either emailed me about or friends have asked me.  When I get into discussions about interracial marriages, I get asked, “Is the divorce rate pretty high in interracial marriages?” or “What’s the divorce rate in interracial marriages?”

You will hear my response through my experience.  I talk about:

  • Vulnerabilities in interracial marriages.  The outside negative influence can bring a lot of chaos into marriages.  Think of cases where parents or family members were not happy with the union from the start.
  • Importance of Code of Conduct in a marriage.
  • Forever changing lives and to adapt to the changes in your partner and accepting those changes.  People don’t stay the same.
  • Understanding that the person you marry is not necessarily going to stay the same as he/she becomes a parent.  Life events bring different qualities out in a person so be acknowledging those qualities and making the best of new situations.

If you have questions and you need any help, please do let me know and I would be happy to provide guidance by sharing my experiences with you.  Feel free to share this with your friends or family members who can find some insights from this story.

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

If you have a story to share, contact me and provide a little information about you.  You can also connect with me on Instagram or Facebook.  And how about just email me at indianinterracialmarriages@gmail.com

Common Question Answered IIM028

Convincing parents to accept non-Indian partner

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, I answer one of the most common questions people emailed me in Season 1, “How do I convince my parents to let me be with my non-Indian partner?”

You will hear my response through my story rather than my opinion.  I believe best answers to questions come from experiences rather than opinions.  I never thought of convincing my parents but I did believe that it was important to share my news with my parents in a manner that offered them the space to hear me out.  I know that it’s important to help people understand my point of view but also not make them wrong for having an opinion that is different than mine.

At the end of the day, parents love their kids and they want their kids to be happy.  Not knowing another culture and faith creates some level of fear for parents for the happiness of their kids so they reject anything that they don’t understand.  It’s understandable.  But I talk to people how I like to be talked to this helps me in understanding and being patient with others.  I know that by providing other people the opportunity to be heard and helping them choose, I can forgo taking the responsibility of their feelings about my choice.

This episode shares my experience and my thoughts on how I see this gift of life and my belief in giving this life justice by creating happy life for myself.  Yes, my choices have brought challenges for me but it’s easier for me to handle the responsibilities of those challenges than if I was living a life chosen by others.  There are compromises that I make and those compromises are chosen by me and not by anyone else.

Hope sharing my experience on this matter will help you navigate some of the challenges in your life.  I hope you find the courage and love within you to really be honest with your families and give them the opportunity to choose to be happy for you or not.

If you have questions and you need any help, please do let me know and I would be happy to provide guidance by sharing my experiences with you.  Feel free to share this with your friends or family members who can find some insights from this story.

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

If you have a story to share, contact me and provide a little information about you.  You can also connect with me on Instagram or Facebook.  And how about just email me at indianinterracialmarriages@gmail.com

Just enjoying my time here….

Moving forward and on Francesca & Raghav Part 2 – IIM027

Episode 027 / Traveling together

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

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In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we address Francesca and Raghav’s plans for the future in the U.S.  Francesca shares wedding plans and continuing to build a relationship with Raghav’s family.

I wish them the best with the new beginning and the strength to continue on this journey of being great partners.

If you haven’t listened to Part 1 of the story.  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

You may connect with the couple on their Instagram.

Francesca and Raghav

Engineering a life together – Francesca & Raghav Part 1 – IIM026

Episode 026 / Really mixed it up

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we address Francesca’s background and her family history.  Francesca and Raghav share their story of first date and then introducing each other to their respective families.  Though, bringing Raghav to meet Francesca’s family was fairly smooth, we get to talk about the uphill climb of having Raghav’s mother understanding his choice of being with Francesca.  It was one of the most difficult episodes for me as I had to hold the space for Francesca to share a really tough subject.

Being rejected just for being who you are is really tough on your soul.  I can imagine the pain that the couple endure everyday but they have committed to soldier on.

My words can’t give justice to the emotions in Francesca’s voice as she shares her experiences of meeting Raghav’s family.  And Raghav is such a supportive, loving, and kind human being and a great partner to Francesca.

Come back next week to listen to Part 2 of the story.  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

You may connect with the couple on their Instagram.

 

Holi festival

The business continues – Nancy & Suman Part 2-IIM025

Episode 025 / Business world is challenging

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we address talk about the fun and not so fun aspects of having a business.  You have to keep everyone happy and as a leader you have to make sure you are in a good place to create a happy environment.  When there are many personalities to please, personal life and health takes a back seat sometimes.  Even though Suman and Nancy haven’t figured it all out they understand the importance of being in good standing with each other so they can serve their customers and employees with utmost respect.

You will get to hear and understand how shared interests and goals play a crucial role in two people deciding to start a family thank the race, culture, or religion.

Hope you enjoy our conversation and find a few takeaways that can help you or someone in your life.  All I can say is that these two have chosen quite a trek for themselves and I for sure wish them plenty of success and love.

If you missed last week’s episode, here Part 1 of their story.

Visit the couple at their restaurant.  Find all about their specials at www.omindianfusioncuisine.com

You can also find them on Facebook and say hello there.

 

Always looking up….

In business together – Nancy & Suman -Part 1 IIM024

Episode 024 / From business school to real life business

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we address the challenges of owning a business together as Nancy & Suman own an Indian Fusion restaurant in Wisconsin.  For them opening a restaurant came right upon the heels of getting married.

Nancy & Suman share their experience of meeting each other and learning about each other’s culture and sharing the love of traveling around the world.  You will get to hear and understand how shared interests and goals play a crucial role in two people deciding to start a family thank the race, culture, or religion.

Hope you enjoy our conversation and find a few takeaways that can help you or someone in your life.  All I can say is that these two have chosen quite a trek for themselves and I for sure wish them plenty of success and love.

Please come back next week to listen to Part 2 of their story.

Visit the couple at their restaurant.  Find all about their specials at www.omindianfusioncuisine.com

You can also find them on Facebook and say hello there.

I know I will be visiting their restaurant for some Dosa when I go to Wisconsin.

Nancy and Suman
Indian colors

Adapting to new family dynamic Tina & Richard- Part 2 – IIM023

Episode 023 / Taking the goodness from both cultures

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By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we talk about family and the central role family plays in our lives.  There are great teachings and learnings for our growth and our future generations.

Find out how Richard asked Tina’s dad for her hand and what Tina’s dad thought of that gesture.  In mixed families, traditions and celebrations take a whole new meaning and we do touch on this subject as the couple have pretty much figured out how their time gets split between his and her family.

We spend plenty of time discussing the benefits of having family close by as Tina’s parents can stop by to take care of their little one on a short notice.  Tina and Richard bring up a great point of the importance of having families with kids of their son’s age.

We know communities are changing and Tina and Richard have many couples around them who are in mixed family dynamic and it doesn’t seem to be a strange dynamic to them anymore.  Well, I say it’s a great thing that we are embracing the mixed race/culture families.

There’s plenty more that gets shared so hit the PLAY button and enjoy.

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Tina Gowin Carlucci is a registered dietitian and certified personal trainer and can be found on social media.  Her practice is named Gowinnutrition.  Tina has many tips on healthy lifestyle and she often delicious recipes on her Instagram.

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Our family

Beyond culture, it’s a meeting of two personalities- Tina & Richard – IIM022

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Episode 022 / Friendship turned into partnership

By Amanpreet Kaur – Follow me: Instagram, Facebook

Carl Jung, famous psychiatrist and psychotherapist, said once that the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.  It is very true for the guests on the show, Tina & Richard, who were kind enough to spend their Saturday afternoon sharing their beautiful story.  In this episode of Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast, we talk about their meeting, their attraction to each other, and family.

They are still not in agreement with when they consider their first date was and you will get to hear them share the backstory on that.  Being a studious person, Tina wasn’t interested in dating or getting involved with anyone until Richard shared a “secret about guys” and made Tina rethink.  They shared cheesecake as dessert is the best part of a good meal.

Both are very passionate about creating a great family for their son and Tina having grown up in a joint family has plenty of wisdom to share about love, care, and kindness toward others with her son.  Richard is soft spoken, patient and understanding man who very openly embraced Indian lifestyle and family gatherings.

I had a great time speaking with them as I find myself really connecting with people who get the opportunities to be raised by grandparents.  There’s a type of love you receive from grandparents that I think I can never find anywhere.  Grandparents are gifts, in my humble opinion.

Subscribe to the Podcast on  iTunes  and if you would like to comment on this podcast, you can leave your review there and let me and others know what this podcast offers.

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Mentions in This Episode

  • Tae Kwon Do – According to TeamUSA, Taekwondo is one of the most systematic and scientific Korean traditional martial arts, that teaches more than physical fighting skills.
  • Dance MarathonIt’s a movement benefiting Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals
  • Samosa – Indian savory fried pastry made out of wheat and filled with potatoes, peas and other spices.  It is normally in the appetizer section of the restaurant menu.

Tina Gowin Carlucci is a registered dietitian and certified personal trainer and can be found on social media.  Her practice is named Gowinnutrition.  All links are here: Facebook | Twitter | Instagram

Tina & Richard Wedding Day

Getting out of comfort zone – Marlena & Bikram Part 2 – IIM021

Here we are again.  We will continue with our conversation about family, language, food, and traditions.  There are plenty of hand me downs that Bikram and Marlena are giving to their young son, especially the love for traditions and languages.  It’s great that parents encourage their kids to speak multiple languages.

Listen to this couple’s love story from the beginning in Part 1

It’s amazing what love can get you to show up in ways that you never thought possible.  Hear how Bikram asked for Marlena’s hand in marriage in Polish.

Mentions in the episode

Gurbani (ਗੁਰਬਾਣੀ) – the Gurbani is the Treasure of Wisdom (Giaan-Guroo) – Sikhs refer to compositions of the Sikh Gurus and other Writers of Guru Granth Sahib. In general, hymns in the central text of the Sikhs, the Guru Granth Sahib, are called Gurbani.

Hindi (हिन्दी,) – national language of India

Punjabi (ਪੰਜਾਬੀ) – spoken in Punjab region of India

Polish (język polski, polszczyzna) – West Slavic language spoken mainly in Poland

Neil Gaiman quote – Have you even been in love?  Horrible, isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.

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Marlena and Bikram

Marlena and Bikram